The guy asked you not to tag your hate so you wouldn't upset Laurel Lance fans. So... what? No biggie. That was one person. Your post wasn't aggressive, but maybe he thought it was gonna become a "thing", since bashing her kinda is. You do know how much the actress has been bullied by the Oliciters/Laurel-haters, right? Like, really, there have been articles about it (no kidding). Her fans are entitled to at least try and ask you not to keep hating and tagging too. Chill.
But. It. Wasn’t. HATE.
Telling you don’t like a character, and telling it only once, can’t be seen as hate, I am sorry. For the John Winchester thing I had a couple days ago, I can understand how it could have been felt like hate, because I actually posted maybe half a dozen posts. I didn’t realize it while doing it, because I just was following my thoughts as they came, but yeah, it was a lot I guess, particularly if you came on the tag in the end and had to read all of them in a row.
But about Laurel, it was one post. One little tiny post where the only negative thing I said was “I don’t like Laurel Lance”. It does not categorize as hate.
And I also understand how fans are protective of their beloved characters, particularly when there is a lot of hate about them. I didn’t know the actress had been bullied. But I don’t see how people could have thought I was going to bash her, as the rest of my post basically said I loved her as Ruby. My point was that the actress wasn’t the issue in my not-liking of Laurel Lance, but the character was. I am like as far as you can be from bashing the actress in this post.
And, once again, if the person that send me message had said something like : “Please be careful what you tag about Laurel, the fans have to deal with haters all the time, and the actress is attacked viciously, which makes every negative post hard to bear.”, I would have listened. And I would have explained I had no hate for the actress, that I actually liked her, and that she was one of the reasons I began to watch Arrow. And I would also have said I am not the kind that just spreads hate for the fun of it, and that even if I didn’t like Laurel as a character, I didn’t hate her either, and didn’t feel like I had to attack anyone having a different opinion than me.
But the anon message I’ve got was very different, it basically accused me of hate, told me I was rude, and then told me not to tag my posts. I don’t see why I am the one that has to chill here.
Since the beginning of my rewatch, I have been positive and talking about how much I love characters and actors like 99,9% of the time. I LOVE Supernatural, I really am not harsh on it, sometimes I just see a flaw and don’t point it because I like this show very much and I accept its flaws as I would accept them from a dear friend.
The two occasions I have posted negative comments about something are also the two only occasions strangers (or I guess because one of them was anon…) came to me and basically told me to shut up.
The first one, about John, I understand. I was ranting, and I wasn’t paying much attention whether I could sound a little harsh on the character. I mean, I believe what I said, but I also posted like maybe half a dozen posts on a row (well it was an inspiring episode, what can I say ? :p) and yeah it totally could have been felt as spam, borderline hate. I would have apologized about how I had communicated my feelings about the character if the person that messaged me had done it without aggressiveness. But that person came on my post and told me I needed to calm down and stop posting basically, which I didn’t like and couldn’t accept.
Then the second one was not even about supernatural. I just saw Ruby 1.0 appear, and I realized I actually loved her (I mostly think about Ruby 2.0 when I think about Ruby, so it was kind of a surprise). And I have discovered Arrow this year, and first I was very exited because Katie Cassidy was in it, but I have not been able to like Laurel Lance, and the character got me so frustrated that at some point I just kinda felt like I must not love the actress, because it is very rare when I don’t like a character at all when it’s played by and actor/actress that I like. So when I saw that I loved Ruby 1.0, I made a post saying that it was really confusing because I didn’t like Laurel but loved Ruby 1.0, so basically it wasn’t the actress but the character.
I got called rude by an anon and got asked not to tag my “laurel hate” not to bother her fans. If saying “I don’t like this character” is hate, I don’t know how to express my feelings anymore. This time, I have no idea how I could have phrased it not to offend anyone.
I really think this website is amazing. You can discuss the things you love with strangers, among other amazing things you can do. But if I just have to censor myself because people don’t like to read opinions that are not theirs, we might have a problem.
And I really don’t understand how people can think like that. I mean, I don’t ship destiel but I still smile every time I see someone talking passionately about it, and I also some time reblog destiel stuff when they are clever or beautiful or funny. It is not because I don’t agree that these people are wrong, or rude for saying what they feel. It just doesn’t make any sense to me that people would think like that, would actually think that it was actually rude and hate when I said “I don’t like Laurel Lance”. If someone could explain, I would be very happy to understand.
Can you not tag your laurel hate. Its rude and her fans don't need to see that in her tag.
I don’t see how saying “I don’t like Laurel Lance” is hate. Particularly when it is in a post that is mostly not about her but about Katie Cassidy, and how I loved Ruby played by her but don’t like Laurel, and so the conclusion is the actress is not the problem.
I don’t see how my post was rude, I was basically just staying my preference for an actress’ role instead of another. If fans of Laurel find it rude, maybe they need to rethink what is rude and what is not. I thought everybody was entitled to their opinions, I don’t ask Laurel fans to stop tagging their posts because I find it rude for them to express their opinion which is different from mine.
I really have issues with people on this website that take every negative opinion on a character as hate and insult, and rude. I have every rights to not like a character, like you have every right to love them. As long as I am not insulting anyone, and I am not trying to hurt anyone, I think it is fair to say I also have every right to tag my posts as I like it. If really I offend you by saying “i don’t like that character”, block me, because I won’t stop expressing my feeling about the things I love just because some people disagree.
I am always happy to discuss things though, but you coming as an anon on my blog to basically tell me I am rude and need to stop talking about what I like (or don’t like) doesn’t make me want to discuss with you.
I am tagging it because I want to be able to find it back on my blog. I am not stopping.
I’d like to think I could be cool enough to just say “Nice day captain.” if I ever saw Nathan Fillion on the street, because it would be amazing to be like a cool memory to him. I am pretty sure I would just cry and have an asthma attack, more my style.
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